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4 Ways to Take Back Your Power
When we lose power in our own lives, it usually stems from a lack of self-trust, a denial of truth, and seeking something external for validation.
I have spent a large majority of my life learning the hard lessons of self-doubt. Too many times in life, I have let myself fall victim to my circumstances. Too many times, I have let what others say about me define my own feelings about me. Too many times I have allowed a mistake I made to solidify false truths about me. A bad relationship, a deficit in my bank account, a friendship gone sour, or a few extra pounds around my waist have all taken me down into the trenches of unworthiness and doubt. I eventually got to a point where the pity and self-loathing was just too exhausting and unbearable to maintain. This way of being wasn’t working. I was miserable.
If I was actually going to be happy and attempt to have the life I envisioned, I was going to have to forge a new path for myself. I was going to have to change my mind about me and not give up. I knew it wouldn’t be easy. Nothing worth having is. But, come hell or high water, it would be worth it.
Take your power back now with the help of these four tips:
1. BECOME AWAKE
Whenever you are feeling off center, recognize it. Instead of reacting and attaching a story to it, take a moment and become awake to the fact that you are feeling off. Now take note of why it is you are feeling this way. Identify the limiting beliefs. What truths are you denying? Usually these feelings are stemming from fear and self-doubt. It all comes from the single thought and belief of not being enough.
Take a breath. You’re okay. Have compassion for yourself. It is hard to feel unworthy. It is hard to feel fear. It is hard to pretend for extended periods of time. It has an effect not just on our minds but on our bodies and energy as well. The more you breathe, the calmer your body and mind will get. Now start to have compassion for yourself. You’re right, you are not perfect. None of us are. You are a work in progress. A beautiful work in progress. But you are trying. As long as you have breath, you are forever evolving and growing. Commit to your evolution and you will see that this fear and self-doubt is nothing more than a perspective that needs a new point of view.
3. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
If you don’t take responsibility for your feelings about you and what is going on in your life, you will never be able to change it. If you don’t acknowledge the truth about how you feel, you cannot live in authenticity. Starting today, take ownership. This is your life. It is yours. You have the power to keep it the way it is, or change it. There is no way around that.
4. TOUGH LOVE
Let your strength work for you here. Be stubborn as all hell. It takes work to recognize your self-sabotaging thoughts. It takes work to live in honesty. It takes hard work to have compassion for you. And it takes even more work to say ENOUGH. You decide that, no matter what, you have a greater purpose. You are enough. You deserve all that is good and true. Don’t believe yourself yet? Keep trying. Fake it until you make it. Don’t give up. Decide over and over and over again—without changing your mind—that nothing separates you from your greater power.