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My boyfriend’s daughter is obsessed with magic. Not the kind of magic that includes a deck of cards or a rabbit in a hat. When I say magic, it’s the kind of magic where—smack dab in the middle of the living room—she will find an odd, forgotten about object from under the couch and suddenly it holds all the powers to transport her anywhere she wishes to go. Often times, the place she travels to is a land filled with rainbow colored bunnies, monsters, and brooms that can fly.
Wherever she is, she seeks magic. I will pick up a rock, and with a sincerely inquisitive look on her face, she’ll ask, “Is that a magic rock?”
At first, I didn’t really know what to say to her when she would ask. So I just went along with it. Yeah, sure, it’s magic. Why not? I struggled in the beginning to get to that feeling place with her. It had been a long time since I had dreamt with my eyes open. But after months and months of being involved with and giving in to her magic seeking ways, I finally realized the profound effect it has had on my own life.
I was speaking with a client yesterday who is going through what I call a “flat line” phase. Flat lining is when nothing seems exciting and you feel numb all the time. Flat lining is when you’re just going through the everyday motions of life like a robot. You don’t think you’re depressed but you definitely don’t feel happy or content. Flat lining is hard to detect within yourself because it’s not an extreme emotion that is obvious to the naked eye. So for the most part, it feels kind of normal. You’re still accomplishing everything you’re supposed to do but the difference is that it doesn’t hold any joy or…magic.
I recognize this because I’ve experienced this many times in my own life. And when you’re in the thick of it, it feels as though something really significant or big needs to happen to catapult you into breathing with purpose again.
But what I’ve learned over the years is that it’s actually tiny little things that can get you back to a good feeling place. Tiny, seemingly insignificant, actions that bring you back to feeling that subtle joy and magic in the everyday. You don’t have to leave your life and go on a vacation to find it. It can be found right where you are and possibly smack dab in the middle of your living room. Because what this beautiful little girl taught me is—magic exists and resides within all of us. It’s always there. We just need to tap into it.
Photo credit: Manuel Lozano
Here are 5 quick and easy ways to get the magic back in your everyday:
1. Focus on the heart
Close your eyes for 2-5 minutes. Place your hands on your heart and put your attention there. Start to imagine that with every inhale the heart expands in size. Now start to think of one thing you appreciate in your life. It might be hard at first, especially if you’re having a tough day, but keep trying until you find something that you genuinely appreciate. Notice how you feel. Continue to breathe from the heart center and focus on appreciation.
2. Compliment someone:
Sometimes when you’re not feeling your best, it means you’re focusing too much on yourself. In times like this, a great way to get the energy off yourself is to see beauty in someone else. Go up to someone you wouldn’t normally compliment and tell them something positive about them. Do it with the intention to make them feel beautiful and special. Notice the look on their face when you do. It is everyone’s desire to be seen in life and feel they matter. And when you compliment someone when they least suspect it, you will accomplish just that.
3. Get moving
Study after study proves the power of exercise on the brain. Pushing yourself gives you something to fight for. It gives you a temporary struggle that you can overcome immediately which gives you a sense of willpower. Exercise also releases dopamine and endorphins that will automatically get you in a good feeling place. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. It can be a hike, push-ups, or yoga. Just do at least 10 minutes of something. If you don’t know where to start with exercise? Try my 3 or 30 workouts.
4. Find an inspirational book:
Reading is one of the best ways to spark your imagination and creativity. By reading, you are getting a window and intimate look into someone’s fantasies, visions, and dreams. I still to this day remember the feeling I had when I finished the book “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert. I tap into that same feeling for inspiration on a regular basis. Search around and find a book that interests you and make a point to read a few pages or more everyday.
5. Ask yourself the big question.
This step is big and not to be taken lightly. Any big project that I have created started from me asking this singular question, “If I died tomorrow, what would I regret not doing?” It sounds morbid because it is. But it’s also the most important question you could ask yourself because in this question resides your true desires. And that is something you must pay attention to. I ask myself this question every single year. Purpose is a choice. It’s a decision. It’s a decision to follow what your heart is telling you and going after it. Your purpose will evolve and change over the years. Ask yourself the question and hear the answer. Notice how you feel once the answer has come to the surface. Now write it down and make a simple list on what you can do a daily basis to help accomplish that goal.