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I love the term ‘sheer strength’. The words sheer and strength wouldn’t typically be paired together. By definition they are opposites.
Sheer means see-through, delicate, and transparent. Strength means strong and the opposite of being weak.
And so when you marry these words together—so melodically and like two sides of a coin—it feels as though one cannot survive without the other. It’s as though they need each other and balance each other out. Or maybe they blend into each other. That to be transparent is to be strong. That to be strong is to be weak at times.
For me, sheer strength is really about self-love. In moments of extreme vulnerability, can I find compassion for myself? On days when I don’t want to workout, can I be honest about what is really going on and take action? And in my worst and ugliest moments, can I still believe I am worth loving? When all else fails, do I still believe in me?
And if the answer is yes to any, or all, of these questions—that is sheer strength.
Look, life happens. We all make mistakes and lessons are constantly learned. But sheer strength is to sometimes give up and then change your mind to try again. It is purposely sabotaging a perfectly good relationship and then fighting to give it a second chance. Sheer strength is the decision to never walk away from you and your personal growth. To push and push yourself to become what you have always envisioned. And when you make a mistake, you try again.
I cannot think of anything more beautiful than a woman who knows herself and accepts all sides of her. I cannot think of anything more beautiful than a woman, who despite everything, decides she is enough and always worth it.
On days where you might be lacking in strength follow these 5 mindful practices to tap into, and unleash, your sheer strength:
1. Find gratitude
Gratitude is the number one way to bring yourself back to your center. Even on the toughest of days, one moment of gratitude can alter your entire perspective. Everyday, try to find three things you are grateful for. It can be as small as a cup of coffee or as big as gratitude for your health. Whatever it is, practice this everyday.
2. Be honest with yourself
Honesty with yourself is one of the greatest forms of self-love. On days when you are feeling down, angry, unmotivated or having an emotional response to something, take a moment to ask yourself the question- why? Why are you feeling this way? What started it? Then go one step further. Take ownership over it and ask yourself how you can help yourself in this situation. What can you do to make yourself see clearly and to feel better? Listen for the answer.
3. Be compassionate and kind to yourself
The most loving thing we can ever do for ourselves is to be kind and compassionate to ourselves even when we are feeling low or have done something we are not proud of. For instance, on days when you are hating your body and beating yourself up, say one loving thing to yourself even if you don’t want to. Or you can say “I understand I am hating me today, and I’m sorry. I promise to work on this because I know I can do and be better.” I personally have practiced this many times. And every time it works. The compassion I show myself in a dark moment immediately starts to shift my energy.
4. Forgive yourself
If kindness and compassion are the most loving thing you can do, forgiving yourself is the toughest and most rewarding. We’ve all messed up. I’ve messed up BIG in life. And sometimes even when I think about those moments, I cringe. But if you truly understand that our mistakes help us evolve into who we are meant to be, then you see the value in it. And if you can see the value, then you can find forgiveness.
Once you’ve built this inner foundation, it is now time to have an action based life. If you want something, you have to go for it. If you want to get fit, you have to work out and consistently. There is no way around it. If you make a mistake, admit it to yourself, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and then make sure you take action to fix it. When you see results from taking action, you build trust in yourself, in your abilities and you believe in you.
Now, go be amazing.