Going forward means taking risks, including leaving some of our old habits behind. Turn that fear into excitement and allow the feeling of the unknown to bring you to new heights.Read more
"I am failure for not sticking to consistently training and for not eating as clean as I should have." This is the story I could be telling myself. This is the opinion that could've turned into a fact. I once heard that our reality is largely made up of our perceptions and beliefs, not facts. And that our ideas and theories are based on experiences and opinions, so much so that we start to create stories from these views and judgements.
So instead of writing a failure story, I chose to look at this set of progress pictures taken a few days ago and tell myself a different story. "Well Jo, you haven't put as much energy into your fitness commitments and IT'S OK. It doesn't make you less of an example of a strong woman. Since October of last year you were working on recovering from a shoulder injury, rebuilding a marriage that was close to divorce, raising two young women (including an emotional teenager), creating long lasting friendships with women you once felt unworthy to be around, and most importantly going back to school to start a career in health and life coaching that you've been daydreaming about for almost 2 years. Living a HEALTHY LIFE means nourishing all the areas that make you whole. Your fitness is just a part of that. You're a badass Jo, and you know what it takes to get your groove back. Other areas in your life needed your energy more than you needed to focus on leaning out."
We often look at strength as something we can define or measure by weight loss, body compositional changes, more lean muscle built, and even the amount of weight you’re able to lift or carry. But we never measure strength against the internal battles one goes through in their life amongst all the other things they are simply trying to put together. As women, we can be incredibly critical with ourselves. We take the opinions that others have placed on what it means to be a strong woman and place that internal pressure on ourselves and relentlessly try our best to recreate someone’s definition in our own lives. Imagine if we stopped doing this for just a brief moment. Would you be able to change the narrative of what you truly believe in to be true?
There are definitely times in this life where I have for a brief moment considered myself as a failure or failing because my body didn’t look a certain way. Almost 4 years into my fitness journey there’s this small bit of perception I have that I would’ve already looked a certain way. However, when I look at it all as a whole, I think of all the things I’ve managed to accomplish in the most healthy manner ever. Some of things like overcoming depression, coping with anxiety, and creating a healthy life for my family and I to thrive in cannot be measured in any form of measurement.
The chatter in your head will try to find meaning in it because this obstacle is clearly telling you that your dream isn’t supposed to happen. Remind yourself that society has romanticized a concept of what beauty, fitness, and loving yourself looks like. The power to define what beauty means to you is within you. You are the source of your reality.